Hello and Assalam Aleikum (peace be with you),
Recently I’ve been thinking about how blessed we are to have our parents. It’s a priceless gift from Allah. And as any gift, they should be treated with a special love and care. Therefore, Allah mentions parents at least 15 times in the Holy Quran. Additionally, there are numerous traditions of the Prophet Muhammed (peace and blessing be upon him) on this subject.
"Worship Allah and join not any partners with Him; and be kind to your parents..." [Noble Quran 4:36]
"Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility and say, "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood."[Noble Quran 17:23-24]
If we think about this, our parents are ambassadors from Allah. They are giving us love, care, emotional and physical support through the blessings and help of Allah subhan wa ta’ala. Because we were created weak, Allah took the most perfect care about our wellbeing by gifting us our parents. How beautiful is that, isn’t it? This is how much Allah loves us! Alhamdullilah (Praise be to God).
"And We have enjoined on man [to be good] to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him and his weaning was over two years. Be thankful to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination."[Noble Quran 31:14]
If we talk from material point of view, we are ‘indebted’ to our parents, and to our mothers especially. This post will be about our dear mothers.
They’ve loved us before we were born, they have been through the worst pain while being pregnant with us and when delivering us, they’ve been through the sleepless nights when we needed their help. They’ve been there for us while we were helpless infants, and they are ALWAYS there for us even when we grow up, get married and have children of our own. They are the only ones who are sincerely happy for our success and they are the only ones who will always stand by your side no matter what. Most of you are probably familiar with the following hadith. A man came to the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and said:
“O Messenger of Allah! Who from amongst mankind warrants the best companionship from me?” He (peace and blessings be upon him) replied: "Your mother." The man asked: “Then who?” So he (peace and blessings be upon him) replied: "Your mother." The man then asked: “Then who?” So the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) replied again: "Your mother." The man then asked: “Then who?” So he replied: "Then your father." (Sahîh Bukhârî 5971 and Sahîh Muslim 7/2)
Subha Allah. Any time I read this, I think about my own mom Alhamdullilah. There is no human being dearer than her. May Allah give her long and blessed life in this dunya (life on Earth) and the infinite happiness and pleasure in the akhirah (afterlife). Amen. Shaykh Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi said when talking about his own mother:
“The secret of her importance lies in the tremendous burden and responsibility that is placed upon her, and the difficulties that she has to shoulder - responsibilities and difficulties some of which not even a man bears. This is why from the most important obligations upon a person is to show gratitude to the mother, and kindness and good companionship with her. And in this matter, she is to be given precedence over and above the father.[...] And I have no doubt that my mother - may Allah shower His mercy upon her - had a tremendous effect upon me, in encouraging me to study; and she assisted me in it. May Allah greatly increase her reward and reward her with the best of rewards for what she did for me.”
I remember in 1990’s my country was in deficit of food and clothes, but my dear mother used to buy an apple for me, cut it in two halves and give me one half after breakfast and one half after dinner so that I could get some fruits in my diet. She used to wash my nappies, so I could wear them once again because they didn’t sell them anywhere those days. I remember that she used to call me before coming from work and tell me that she bought something for me and that it starts with ‘T’ and ends with ‘E’ and I would try to guess what was it. And even though it was a ToothpastE, she knew how to make me feel excited J. I remember when I was sick, she would wake up at night and prepare medicine for me and stay with me until I feel better. All the care that she has done for me is out of her absolutely unconditional love. And after I became a Muslim, I started to realize that much better, Subhan Allah. I am happy to have a mother like that Alhamdullilah. Ask yourself: Do you remember how your mother was always trying to get you the best dress even if your family was on the budget? Do you remember that she would feed you first and then herself? Do you remember how patient she was when you would keep asking her questions about everything in the world just because you were a curious child? …We are in a lifetime ‘debt’ to our mothers and the best way to pay this ‘debt’ is to show them our sincere love, care, respect and kindness. Sometimes, one can find himself rude to his mother because it’s been a hard day at work, or he is being too arrogant to his mother because he thinks he knows everything better. But the truth is that we should ALWAYS be kind, patient and soft to our mothers. They deserve the kindest treatment we could ever give. No matter what relationship you might have between you and your mother, she is still the one who carried you under her heart for nine months and who cared for you when you were weak. It doesn’t matter if you have different points of view, opinions, or even religions, you still have to show her all love, respect and kindness that you have.
"The greatest sins are to associate partners in worship with Allah, to be undutiful or unkind to one's parents, to kill a soul forbidden by Allah and to bear false witness."[Sahîh Bukhârî]
What is VERY important to remember is a very famous narration of our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
'Paradise lies at the feet of your mother' [Musnad Ahmad, Sunan An-Nasâ’i, Sunan Ibn Mâjah]
So, if your mother is happy and pleased with you, in sha Allah (God willing) you’ve earned the easiest way to paradise. Stay blessed, love your parents, respect them and be kind to them. Only Allah knows how long they have left on this Earth, so use every single moment you have to show them how much you love and care for them. May our parents be the most happy and healthy. May Allah guide us and make us even softer to them than we are now. May Allah protect them and give them the best place in Jannat Al Firdaous (the highest level in paradise). Amen.
P.S. I translated some Arabic words here because I hope that people from other religions could relate this post to themselves as well :)